Monday, 2 February 2015

Why I wouldn't say i'm fearless

A few weeks ago a friend of mine told me he thought I was fearless, he said it because I have a tendency to do crazy things and take risks but I certainly wouldn’t say that those qualities made me fearless in fact there are a lot of things I’m afraid of…

I’m afraid of pumping my own gas at the petrol station, stray dogs, of commitment to almost anything, to intimacy (and I’m equally afraid of ending up alone), I’m terrified of fireworks, of boats, of bees being in my shoes, I’m scared my life will have no meaning or that I will waste my time doing things that will ultimately serve no purpose, (I’m embarrassed to admit it but since I’m being honest) I’m afraid of being fat, of something bad happening to loved ones and I’m not overly happy at height or in small spaces, small sticky children make me nervous, the idea of always having to wear shoes makes me quiver and I’m scared one day I might accidently eat meat.

As you can see I’m not fearless, not at all, not by any means I’m clearly scared of a lot of things but I also understand that living in the moment is important. If we all walk around worrying about what the future holds all the time and never take any risks then we would all be living in a bubble of our own creation in which our lives would be limited to the few things inside our comfort zone.

Obviously the risks we take should be measured, there’s no way I’m endorsing drunk driving or playing chicken in the road but if someone asks if I want to drive a rickshaw across India, go paragliding, bungee jumping, white water rafting or hitch hiking I’m most likely going to say yes. If I want to travel and no one can come with me I’m not going to side line my plans I’ll go on my own, if I’m not happy in the place I live I will get rid of almost everything I own and move across the world. If the job I have isn’t mentally or spiritually fulfilling I will sack it in and take on a menial role rather than compromise my happiness, because in the end, when I’m on my death bed looking back at my life I don’t want to say that I wish I’d taken more chances or opportunities I want to die knowing that I lived life to the fullest because after all life would be boring if it was constantly lived in a box.


(And as a wee after mention, my life line is pretty fucking long so I’m not really too worried about that…)

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